In my time as a young woman in the dating scene, I have experienced relationships with some of the utmost male scum of the Earth. These certain types of young men have proven themselves time and time again to me that they deserve their title, a title that is a combination of a synonym for donkey and the word 'hole.' Get it?
The definition of this combination, according to the dictionary, is "a thoroughly contemptible, detestable person," and I will agree with that description in full.
However, there is a revision to this old breed of a loathsome character. The preceding version is dying and in its place is a new mutated species - a species that girls are no longer immune to.
I feel that it is my duty to alert fellow females of the devious ways of this new-fangled breed. But first I will add an explanation of my qualifications to enrich readers with this valuable information.
As I emerge from a three-year relationship and attempt to start dating again, I have realized that since the last time I played the field, the game has changed.
Every young gentleman has an ulterior agenda and a series of flaming hoops that must be jumped before allowing girls to enter their fortress of solitude.
It may be easily detectable at this point that I am a freshly-scorned young lady who has just re-encountered her first detestable chap in quite a good bit.
After I had come to the realization that this handsome devil was in fact "that" guy, it was far too late. He had given my brain a solid dose of his venom, and I was hooked on it. I couldn't help but be submissive to what was a torturous roller coaster of a relationship.
Finally though, I detached myself from his talons, but not before some serious damage to my faith in the male variety had occurred.
Never in my fulfilling life had I been granted the deprived privilege of a lad who could care so little about me while caring so much about getting what he wanted that he would even go so far as to pretend that he was a nice guy. It's tragic.
It is my belief that girls who fall for this detestable form of human being deserve every painful minute, unfortunately, and I deserved it as well. When, inevitably girls are disappointed, I feel no sympathy for them, and I am asking for none either - I am only offering my unbridled advice.
This new generation of male species has many traits, but the most defining is his ability to act like a nice guy. He exhibits a multitude of nice guy qualities that make him appealing to the female collective.
These boys have gone so far as to study the genuine nice guy species and develop their own on-demand nice guy traits. This tricks females into letting their guard down, thinking she has found a cute, nice guy. The fa?\0xA4ade of the nice guy will act smooth but still make certain deliberate mistakes or admit random vulnerabilities while on a date in order to make him more endearing and less threatening.
Once they're within his paralyzing hold, he either strings the now-vulnerable female along for when he gets lonely or when he has decided to move to the next victim. He gives no warning, no explanation and no reason.
The young gent will make the fearful female think that it is her fault and that the relationship didn't work out because she did something wrong or she wasn't pretty enough, cool enough, experienced enough, etc. The list of superficial reasons can be endless, and he recycles through them depending on the girl.
Once, however, the female has fallen for him, she can never leave him even if she wants to due to the simple fact that as soon as she starts to figure out what is behind the facade, he swoops in with a blinding romantic gesture and she is swiftly placed back under his spell. This allows him to continue his distasteful behavior.
Finding a way out is not only crucial, but also mentally and emotionally necessary. As hard as it is to admit that "that" guy will never commit to being in a serious relationship, admitting that fact is the first crucial step in moving away from him.
Continuing with the tumultuous technique of detaching from this less than noteworthy character is difficult, but absolutely necessary for emotional value and relationship advancement - the good guys are out there, they just need to be found. Females are strong characters in nature and they must not be afraid to keep on living and to walk in this world, even if it means walking alone.
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